Just Me

I have been very off and on with my eating for this week. I am afraid to go weigh in, but I am going this evening. Last night I went to the Cat and Fiddle for there live jazz music. A good friend of mine plays the drums there every Wednesday. When I got there I was kind of feeling a little down, due to the fact I had a bad eating day. But by the end of the evening I was smiling and very happy. I had a great conversation with a young lady. And no it was not just that she was very attractive. I really enjoyed the conversation. It was a very deep conversation at times, but over all I just really enjoyed it. Sometimes I like to have a good conversation. With all the pressures, time commitment, and fast pace of life we don’t always get to have a good conversation. I also feel that a lot of the time when I am talking to someone I get the feeling that they are just waiting for me to stop so they can talk. Communication skills have decreased. I like what Stephen Covey says "Seek first to understand, then to be understood". He also talks about using the Indian Talking Stick Technique. Both have the principal of that if you let the other person express there point until they totally feel that you understand them. They will be more willing to listen to what you have to say. I have tried this and it does work. Now it is not really easy to do because you have to let the other person go first, and most people just want to get there point across and don’t always want to hear what you have to say. Something else I realized last night is I am who I am, and I am ok with that. I have never really had any luck with women. My brother says it is because I am too nice to them, and women like men who treat them poorly. Doesn’t make a lot of sense to me, but I see it all the time. I have to be honest I have tried it and yes it works a lot better then when I was romantic, caring and supportive. Being a jerk works really well, but it is not me. Maybe I am meant to be alone, to have lots of female friends but never that one special one. I have decided that this is ok as long as I stay me. I can’t just be a jerk. I am who I am and again I am very happy with that. Ok so I just had a crazy idea here. I would like it if anyone who reads my blogs to leave a maximum of four words that they feel would descried me. You can do that is the comment section. If you want to leave your name you can, but if you put anonymous there is no way for me to find out who wrote it. I will not erase anything anyone writes in the comment section unless it is advertising something I don’t believe in. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and for taking the time to post comments. I really do enjoy reading them.